April 28, 2017

Pray, Stay, Obey

Julie [Owens] began to hear stories about other clergy neglecting victims’ pleas for help.  These church leaders blamed the women for the abuse, ostracized them, and told them to “pray, stay, obey,”
April 20, 2017

Is Married For Better or For Worse Biblical

Married For Better or For Worse Have you or a loved ever been told that? Heard it in a sermon? Maybe it was even in your wedding vows. Guess what... it's not actually in the Bible as many assume it is. People
March 30, 2017

A Voice For the Sexually Abused

No More Silence I admire survivors who choose to use their unbelievably painful experiences to help others, rather than staying silent. For me personally, speaking up about my experience of "Christian"
March 29, 2017

When the Abuser is a Pastor

Pastor Jeff Crippen, who I quote extensively in my book, God Hates Abuse, has a good article on the abuser as pastor. While he is referring to abusive pastors of the flock, the characteristics also apply
January 18, 2017

6 Times You Should Never Submit to Your Husband

You probably are familiar with all the arguments for wifely submission. But did you know that the Bible offers at least 6 times a wife should NOT submit to her husband? A wife's unquestioning submission
January 13, 2017

Is My Husband Abusive?

1. The Abuser Defined Was my husband just a jerk, or was there a more serious character flaw? I asked myself this often. It was hard to decipher, especially since our relationship started out exciting
January 12, 2017

Does Couples Counseling Really Work

Are you hoping that couples counseling will improve your abusive relationship? When abuse is present, couples counseling is NOT appropriate until the abuse has stopped, both parties have undergone individual
January 9, 2017

Leaving the Abusive Relationship

Do you ever think about leaving an abusive relationship? Are you filled with fear of what will happen if you do? How will you make it? What will happen to your children? Where would you go? The questions
December 8, 2016

Ending Narcissistic Relationship

You've decided to end your relationship with a severe narcissist. You know you can't continue with the dysfunction and abuse anymore. Maybe you realize you aren't doing your children any favors by keeping
December 5, 2016

Stuck In a Cycle of Victimization

"The most difficult thing is the decision to act, the rest is merely tenacity. The fears are paper tigers.You can do anything you decide to do.You can act to change and control your life; and the procedure,